Some Men Desire Spouses

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So why would men hesitate to tie the knot? Young men associate marriage with increased responsibilities and with a greater possibility of financial loss. The two drew on discussions they conducted with sixty never-married, heterosexual men, who came from a variety of religious, ethnic, and family backgrounds and ranged in age from 25 to These men reported that the main reason they resist marriage is that they can enjoy many of its benefits without actually getting married—that is, through cohabitation.

Further, they reported experiencing almost no social pressures to marry; not from family, not from friends, and not from the families of the women they live with. They associated marriage with a number of increased responsibilities and with a greater possibility of financial loss. I cannot imagine that such beliefs are any less prevalent now. On a lighter note, men said that one benefit of not marrying was that, if they were to marry, their girlfriend-now-wife would tell them what to do. Second, according to the work of sociologist Steve Nock, marriage changes men in fundamental ways.

These changes in identity are associated with behavioral changes. The data are more scarce on how women change when they get married; however, there seems to be less reason to believe that women have a similar sense that they or their responsibilities will change dramatically when they get married.

Men begin to see themselves as fathers, providers, and protectors when they transition into marriage. Third, research on sacrifice in marriage provides another window on potential differences between men and women.

What do we really know about male desire? Not much, according to Canadian sex researchers

My colleagues and I have found that commitment to the future is more important in explaining male attitudes about sacrifice in marriage than female attitudes about sacrifice. There are a number of possible interpretations of findings like this. For example, women may be more socialized to give to others, regardless of the commitment status of a particular relationship. But I have a hypothesis that goes further: For men to sacrifice for their partners without resenting it, they need to have decided that a particular woman is the one they plan to be with in the future.

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In contrast, I believe that the average woman sacrifices more fully, starting earlier on in romantic relationships, than the average man. To summarize the main point, getting married has historically brought a large change in how men see themselves and how they behave. We have 2 kids, now grown. They were conceived using AI Artificial Insemination as long as the man can masturbate alone he can have children. He just collects the sperm and his wife using a special plastic syringe to inject the sperm into her vagina. One of the last therapists we went to theorized I suffer from intimacy anxiety which shuts down my sexual functioning.

According to her this was caused by childhood abuse. Wow my husband would just jerk off too and I'm here waiting for him to make a move and it's been years. But he is trying he went and got some pills we shall see I dont know if he even finds me attractive or do able I should say lol. I got married 2 years ago and it just seemed that there was no excitement in my sex life. My dysfunction to perform to the best of my abilities in bed made it harder for my wife and me to have a good time during sex. And i was having the feelings that she may decide to get a divorce one day.

I knew something had to be done in order to improve my sex life and to save my marriage because my marriage was already falling apart, so when i was on my Facebook page i came across a story of how Dr itua helped him enlarged his penis to 9ins better. You can as well reach the Dr below for help on your problem, for he has the solution to all Many men have not disclosed, even to their wives. I have been living in a sexless marriage for over 25 years. My husband recently told me that he was abused by his mother as a preteen. Ever since our wedding night I have been frustrated and confused about his lack of desire.

We have had therapy, but he has physical issues now plus the emotional issues. How does it feel as women when your husband doesn't want sex? I want to know. Do you feel sexually frustrated? The sexual intimacy experience for a woman is so very different, than it is for the man. Yes, she was easily excitable when you all were in the dating phase.

But men and women, both, get lazy in bed too. It's not just because she's gets older. So, it changes for both partners after marriage.. He gets old, ugly, unattractive, and gains weight just like she does. We need to stop lying about the wife being the only one to change for the worse. It's just those factors, that affect both partners. Most of those stress factors, were not there and they both were more exciting partners as singles. See, women get bored and turned off by their husbands, just as much.

Men think it's just them that get bored. Yeah right, and my pig can sing the National Anthem. For a woman, sex is not that high on the ladder, anyway. It's not. It's enjoyable, but it's not the high priority. Other things often place above the sex. Example, if you give a working mother the choice between getting extra sleep, or waking up at am to be intimate, which do you think she would choose? But for the man, which do you think he would choose. See, for woman sex is not interesting, without the touch, she needs and wants for good intimacy. Men don't need all that foreplay or touch.

Men are more ready. So when we speak about how some wives often, find excuses, for avoiding sex, we can look back at the previous passages, to get some clues. Think there are things in our diets--chemicals we ingest, things in our environment, maybe even something in our social environment--SOMETHING seems to be impacting men systemically on a large scale.

I don't have answers, but I think it's part of the conversation, or at least part of the research questions. Don't know about the narcissism comment. I think that was probably a value judgement from the author, and I don't think it's a defensible assertion. How about rejection? I've never 'begged' for sex, but when my wife is rarely in the mood, or I have to insist on a kiss that's more than just a peck, or when I try to show off I'm pretty fit and get laughs because I'm "being silly," I'm going to stop trying to be intimate or even initiate normal romantic gestures because it's not worth the disappointment and hurt feelings.

Men need to feel wanted too. Your reaction makes sense. I'm sorry that's the way it is for you. I agree with you, men do need to feel desired. Maybe that's a function of the changing roles, or maybe it's always been that way, but only recently has it been okay to admit. The problem with feminism is it captured ALL of the attention, but only put out half of the narrative. Looking at feminism from an objective perspective, there were some good results and some bad results--like every other human thing we do.

The conversation isn't over. It's time for men to start talking about our side of it now. Thanks for your honesty. I think rejection is the primary factor. Sick and tired of getting "no. I think it's the largest motivator in affairs too. Back about 20 years ago, I began to notice that the few times I was having sex with my wife were becoming fewer. When I'd ask my wife about this, she denied it was happening and that we were "having sex a lot more than we used to. Over the course of a year, I went from once a month sex to once-every-two-months sex, then once every three months. It didn't help that I was being led on with "let's have sex later" when it wasn't possible, only to get "I'm tired" or "I don't feel good" when later came around.

I tell you this, because after a celibate stretch of almost 4 months, I was asked by my wife why I wasn't asking for sex. She denied refusing me and insisted that we were having sex once a week. Then I showed her the calendar, and told her why I was tracking sex. I never heard those lies again. So after a long string of rejections, I just decided that I'd had enough and stopped asking for sex. The odd benefit from this is that my wife has been easier to live with, because I have essentially tuned her out and it's clear that she doesn't care about that. I don't feel loved or desired, but I also don't have my sleep sabotaged nightly because she's mad at me.

There are way, way too many men in our culture who feel that intercourse and intercourse only is sex. It is just ONE act of sex. Even if a man has testosterone issues and sometimes, with certain medications like Lexapro that make your partner less depressed by less sexually interested, nothing can really be done to save that. It is more important that he be happy than you having him banging you every night , he still has the ability to go down on you and give you oral sex. You don't need to have massive testosterone to do that. That's just an act of love. What is interesting is.

I am 39, I have low testosterone and I dont like sex or even want a girl friend. So the doctor put me years ago when I was 23 on a very expensive and strong testosterone injection I take every 3 months as prescribed. However, I still dont want sex and still dont want a girlfriend. I just enjoy masturbation a bit more i guess, but not more often, actually less often but with greater stimulation.

It turns out from tests, low testosterone is not the cause as many assume. But just as much a symptom as the lack of interest in real sex itself. The cause is anxiety, this cause that I dont want a girl friend for a long list of reasons and consider sex risky for many reasons.

It starts in my brain, so because I have an anxiety about sex and women in a relationship, I dont want sex, my brain dont send a signal to produce testosterone as testosterone is considered by my brain as counter intuitive to defend myself against what I consider potentially harmful to myself or future. So even if you up the testosterone with injections, my brain just work harder to let me know that I should not go there by elevating anxiety, my awareness about why I dont want sex becomes stronger raising the anxiety.

However in contrast, the testosterone also help to deal with anxiety and offer greater resistance to they symptoms of anxiety. For this reason I dont notice the anxiety unless my testosterone wears off and the drop of testosterone then triggers anxiety. But it seems like it is anxiety caused by awareness of risk that drive both the lack of sexual interest and low testosterone. The testosterone is purely responding. Most of the time if you do more tests you will find there is nothing wrong with the glands, but rather brain not stimulating its production.

Even if a woman is very attractive, the odds of me trying something is very low to zero. In my case, feminism rhetoric , demonstration and constant incrimination of male sexuality or male sexual interest, uncertain future of relationships and consequences of pregnancy and family court that pose high risks for men drives the anxiety. To me the worst thing besides death that could happen to me is to make a woman pregnant and to put up with the consequences.

So one must be careful to blame it on testosterone while testosterone is really responding to the situation and not causing it. To me it seam that on this topic physiologists still think a flu is caused by a runny nose. Its like they are getting close but still miss it with a mile or two. To start I'm currently way past sex or intimacy! In my younger days l never really had wet dreams and never a woody. I've had a physical every year of my life and nothing changed.

Married 59 years I could get up where I could satisfy the wife but I got bored of my wife and sex so I just gave up. I was actually real happy I had a real excuse to ignore my wife. So years past and the wife was unhappy but l don't care. Life of me is perfect. Maybe the wife acts like a petulant shrew and criticizes him every chance she gets, or is passive aggressive, or downright aggressive.

Sometimes your attitude to everyday life stuff is a huge turnoff, ladies.

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What i notice with these academic types, they all argue 10m around the real issues. Blame low testosterone, anxiety, bordom etc. They never get down to the real issues. Women spend more time turning men off than turning them on. Then they are like, lets do a study to find out what is wrong with men? Now write an article that list the ways, a woman might not want sex. Can you do that?? Everything is not always about the man and what he wants and needs. The woman is very much important. And you know what?? We, the women, are really sick and tired of you doctors and psychologists, blaming women for things a man has trouble with.

Almost on everything, you all blame on the woman. Enough is enough. Keeping intimacy alive during and after cancer treatment. It's not how good he is, it's what he doesn't do in bed. Back Psychology Today. Back Find a Therapist. Back Get Help. Back Magazine. Subscribe Issue Archive. Back Today. Educating for the Future. Inflammation and the 3 Paths of Depression in Older Adults. Follow me on Twitter. Friend me on Faceook. Connect with me on LinkedIn. There are several reasons why he may not want it. Anonymous wrote: Submitted by anonymous on April 25, - pm.

Anonymous wrote:. If one expects sexual fidelity Submitted by Mary on April 26, - pm. They have taken on the responsibility of engaging their partner in an intimate manner If they don't want to do that, then, they have abdicated their moral right to sexual fidelity. You can't have all the rights while abdicating responsibilities. Tacit Contract? Submitted by cl on November 21, - pm.

Submitted by cw on August 16, - am. A man who doesn't really care about sex?! Submitted by Amy on September 5, - am. Define the issue Submitted by Anon on April 25, - pm. So 5 of 6 are about terrible Submitted by C. Anonymous wrote: Submitted by anonymous on May 22, - am. We complain about man beeing too sexually active, but they are comminted somehow, they still desire their woman most of the time.

Same touches, same things, when physical passion dissapears,can get dangerous because you see cristal clear that he is fantasizing about porn screaming and you are about a new romance. He is probably wondering why you dont act like that and you why he isnt as exciting as your fantasies. A friend told me once she was fatesizing about another good looking man even if he doesnt exist, never stoping, but beeing in an almost ended relationship. We might understand that we got ourselves in a big whol, but at least we can dream, read romances etc : and they can hear everytime we are not home.

The only thing I should add is my partner has now gone through the menopause, so perhaps adjustments need to be made for this. I try to be everything a man should be, kind, considerate, supportive, romantic etc. Perhaps we are closer to our distant Bonobo monkey cousins than most of us know and would benefit from looking how there society interacts rather than living a false existence in a society created by individuals with selfish motives. The only thing in my opinion that separates us from our distant cousins is jealousy.

I have the same exact situation Mr, Steve. Unfortunatly for me, i am 28 years old, and my wife is It hurts me inside ALOT but, as a man and a human being, my sexual needs are so high, that I manage to get myself in the mood and make the best out of the situation….. I love her, but i cannot live a life without sex. This past year has got me climbing walls, and the stress that this whole situation creates is awfull, and makes alot of problems in the work, in the relationship, and in my social life.

Please, someone, give me some advice…. You are far too young to be feeling this way. The final option sadly is to call it a day and leave. But what you need to remember is that men and women are very different and throughout periods of their lives there hormonal balance changes, it flows and ebbs like the oceans. Good luck with whatever route you take.

We are tied between our human physical needs and our emotions, men and women are so often opposites. Not all men are the same. Your reply has made me consider how I approach my partner. What do you think? Which seems like she complains about everything. My daughter w Has one more year of school and we are both out of here. We are both in counciling and that helps a lot dealing with it. Why sister or stranger, and not a friend you ask? Sure, I could call it, but I really love her. Yes, love is not everything, but I feel like she loves me too.

Hello Mike, I really feel for you and the situation you have found yourself in. You say you have spoken with your partner, how does she see your advances for intimacy?

Some Men Desire Spouses

Does she feel pressurised? Or does she say she understands and will try harder? In all honesty the latter have been too intense to bare. Our mind plays tricks on us, we begin to think that our partners are just not interested in us and that if someone new came into their lives their interest in the physical would be much greater, to an extent this can be true. I asked my partner would this be the case. Again rather than dragging yourself through all this you need to ask yourself what is it you really need? Are these needs realistic? What can you do to change the situation? And is this relationship right for you?

Yes, she always says she understands and says she is sorry.

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She looks afected by how I feel, and says she will try harder. I want sex with HER. An affair is never the answer, despite how badly your situation is. Sadly, as time goes by, those thoughts go trough my mind, I am made of flesh and bones after all, but I do not want to do it because I cherish her so much. I feel like I am a dad, complaining about how is son is a failure in life.

I love you, I love being with you, and I love every moment we spend together and all those litle things we have BUT I need some intimacy. Hello Mike, firstly happy belated birthday. Some guys seem to have the perfect relationship, lots of intimacy and closeness. I often wonder what they do differently.

The top and bottom of all of this is that as you say you are too young to be feeling this way and why should you have to adapt your needs. Only you can decide your next move. I used to believe in soul mates but I think people come in and out of our lives for many reasons. Regards Steve. It seems that before marriage you are regarded as Superman, but the moment the ring is on her finger it seems to act like Kryptonite. Both you and in a way, your wife will both end up disappointed. Happy, sexually fulfilled men are much more capable of giving joy and compassion to the people around them than a man who is stuck in a sex-deprived marriage.

Another laughably wrong article with false and highly outdated information. Feminism is insecurity. So sad. On top of it I had this competing-with-men thing going on where I felt like I wanted to prove that I could do everything the same, or better, than any guy. So I got into fishing, playing with knives, and keeping a little black book. None of this was done because it made me truly happy. Again, I do not know exactly where all of this feeling that I had to be that way came from. So fast forward many years, I get married, we do commitment, kids, financial problems, adjustment issues, etc.

And I hit a brick wall. My mind starts refusing to want my husband in that way. I feel like for women who felt like they did not have agency over their bodies to whatever extent, for whatever reason, this is a necessary stage in their marriage. Now in my case, I have not talked about this with my husband. I am too afraid of being judged and disappointing him. It is not an unfounded fear, he is quite judgmental and lacks empathy when it comes to these issues. Ssssooooo… Here we are. So the only thing left is for me to hit him with the truth or what I feel is the truth and wait and see if it destroys our marriage.

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